by Kevin Caruso
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is only YOUR way.
Do not try to follow a “guide” to grief, but, instead, follow your heart.
You will feel great pain, and the best release for that pain is crying; so let yourself cry.
Cry as long as you need.
And make sure that you have people who will support your through the grief process.
Also, you may want to get people to help you with your day-to-day affairs. Small things can seem overwhelming when you are grieving, so reach out for help.
You also should strongly consider getting into therapy. Find a therapist that you like, and stay with him or her.
And you may want to consider a grief support group. Working through the grief process with others who are also grieving can be very helpful.
If you are working, take as much time off of work as you need.
And it is very imortant to establish a strong network of family and friends that you can talk to, and whenever you need to talk…reach out, and let your feelings out…always, always, let them out.
Going for walks can help. Exercise will make you feel a bit better.
You may also want to write in a journal; writing can be a great outlet. Write whatever comes to mind; write down what you are feeling.
And also write poetry. Do not try to be an expert poet. Just express what you are feeling in the words that come to you. These poems are only for you. They can be another part of the healing process.
And pray to God for all that you need. God is ALWAYS there…always.
There is great comfort with God.
And when you think of your loved one, celebrate his or her life.
Cherish the wonderful memories.
Give yourself time to heal, my friend.
It will take some time. There is no hurry. You will heal at the pace
that is right for YOU.
God bless you.
I love you.
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